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So sick and tired of all the needless beating
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Thursday, May 16, 2013
My Deep Thoughts
I always believed in the strength of mutual understanding and effective communications in human could overcome every single thing in life. Understanding what others are feeling is an important factor of how we, as humans, end up being more sympathetic towards the person we are feeling for.
But before understanding could take place, there must be communications.
No anger, just pure calmness. No communication can take place when two parties are flaring at each other. No problems are being raised at all. Before one flare, think about how much a relationship means to you.
Two ears and a mouth. Listen more and talk less. Just for joke: You need a symmetrical face. One's ears are at both side and the mouth just happens to be in the middle. If the mouth is placed at the sides, we'll probably have two of it as well. This is due to the fact that our brains have two halves and the frequency of brainwaves activities minus off in the middle.
If one is willing to share what he or she is feeling, raising up and ironing out all differences immediately and not waiting till it snowballs, one could ease in relationship, making it lasting. Snowballing of problems is the most common cause of constant quarrels and fights.
If one party fails to see a reason in why certain actions or decisions are made, please elaborate on the reason behind it or explain accurately why.
There is not a single relationship that cannot be established. Many tells me that horoscope plays a big part. But psychologist can bond with anyone! Most of the time, treating patients like friends before they can get into their thoughts. Agree?
Sciences have proven horoscopes to be untrue. It doesn't mean that I can only be friends with those signs that I am compatible with. It's really how you want to go about asking questions.
In order to fish details out from a person, there must be trust. And asking questions tactfully also helps. How are you going to understand one person. What are the various problems one feel?
Females often frown over love. Men, career and money. This is my stereotyping of herd groups.
I have taught a lot of things in my life. Most, just posting thinking points to people and asking them to think rationally. Put all emotions aside. Think in long run, with a bigger picture. This should be the way. Not by suicide or self-inflicting pain.
I used to be a fan of self-inflicted pain. Somehow feeling the physical pain drown the emotional hurt. But it'll only leave scars that I find it hard to explain how it come about. I am never a person who shares my problems. I give solutions and I am often known as Miss Doramon. Not only that I have everything in my bag when people ask for, I also have all solutions in the world. Need a nail file? I have it in my bag. Need plasters? I have. Need poker cards? I have a prized set of mini playing cards which I adore like hell.
During the pageant, I was the one going, "I have, I have" to every requests that the other contestants need. And I am good at consoling people. I'll never pity girls who cry - it'll only make them pity themselves more and cry even harder. I'd scold senses into them.
Maybe that is why my strictness gets passed onto people that I taught life lessons to.
I don't deny having a fair share of my problems. The ever resourceful me is a failure at controlling where my love ends up.
While I taught girls who got their heart broken solutions, by listing out what traits they want in their husband and compare it to their ex-boyfriends, to allow themselves to see in a bigger picture. Many a times, our emotions get the best of us. But by listing down one's expectations, one can note the pros and cons clearly.
I work three nights in a bar. And I came with this mindset, "Girls who worked in a bar are normally misunderstood that they are easy to hitch with. But that is the wrong mindset of men! Men thinks that they are in bars to relax. But how many guys don't find it a plus thing that there are pretty girls to chat them up? They are the one who don't see that bar waitresses can make good wives too. They somehow just group us as easy."
I told all the younger colleagues that bar guys cannot be trusted. One minute they are texting me cheesy messages, the next minute, I'll fish informations from other waitresses that they are saying the same thing to them. Smart..... But trust me, I stereotyped all bar-goers as men who cannot be trusted. I just know you for a night! Don't expect me to fall for you~ I may treat you like a friend but that's about all.
In order for a person to hurt me, it's a person whom I never want to give up on. I never give up on anyone and it hurts a lot to experience someone giving up on themselves. I encourage. I help. I give all sorts of advices. But I feel helpless when people give up and resign to fate.
Destiny, fate, problems, troubles, happiness, joy are all created by oneself. It's the mindset that leads one on. It's about how you make it through the storm and come out as someone stronger. It is all path out by the choices one make in their lives. One can hardly blame the world, gods, cupids, angels or devils for what their lives turn out to be. It's their choice. They are the one who decides.
To first admit your mistake. Then re-analyze your planning. Re-implement your decisions. Re-evaluate.
Love can be nurtured. People whom you think is not pretty may end up being the most pretty girl in your world. Love sort of leeches on a human and the more time they spend together, the more it grows on them.
A lot of people thinks that by letting your love one go is the greatest love of all. Not to me. I always believe in that if one love someone tremendously, one can never let it go.. Maybe only if they see no hope anymore.
My love all starts with an end in mind. Which means, all my boyfriends are supposed to be my husbands. I always fight for my love. I cannot let go easily. Because I am not the kind of person who gives up easily. In fact, I would keep working on one thing no matter come-what-may.
If one were to let someone go, it just shows that their love for that party is not strong enough to make them into a mental wreck. Mine often breaks me down even though I can still think logically. Which is why, only under circumstances like me going to lose someone I love, only will I then come clean about what I have been doing for them, planning every move with care and advancing in a way that is beneficial for them.
Sometimes, I find myself in a turmoil of learning how to let go and allow them to find their happiness. But who can provide that kind of love other than me? I sound really thick-skinned and, yes, I am. If the other party don't find happiness elsewhere, I wouldn't bear to let it go.
Happiness is important to me. I still cannot believe that all my boyfriends left me for someone else. Except maybe one or two... No, it was three.
Does it hurt if you see your love one in pain? Does it pains your heart? Like how I twittered, "Loving someone is by not changing them. But to adapt to be the one suitable for who they are. If you find changing yourself to be weird, then it's not out of love. It sort of is a kind of happiness when you change yourself for love. Sure, I encourage people to speak out their thoughts.. Maybe trying to see if your partner could change for you. If the love is great enough, their change would be a kind of happiness for them. If under unforeseen circumstances and external factors forbade them to change, be more understanding. Change your own attitude". Only the first sentence is in my twitter. The rest are added in now. =P
I really begin to find myself a very strange human. Like Michael said, "I am a highly unique figure". A lot of people says so, even when they cannot put a finger on what is my X-Factor. I get as many comments as that from dentists',"You have perfect teeth! So white and neat!". Yea, "unique" and "perfect teeth" are my most common praises.
When I read back on my blog posts, most of the time I feel like hiding myself in a hole. I am fucking full of crap shit nonsense. It's like having to watch my videos - My immediate reaction: Blush crimson red and laugh, hide my face somewhere while frantically trying to silent the video. Seeing me on video is okay. HEARING me on video is fucking embarrassing. Especially when I converse in perfect English and I have good writing skills.
Reading my blog is even worse. With serious topics like today's post, I cannot believe that I can be so full of crap like teaching you how to play with sparkles in meetings.
Sometimes I wonder which is the real me. Witty and funny or serious as death. In the bar, I can be fun-loving, very caring and yet firm and serious. I think my personal relationship skills are improving at tremendous rate. I feel good now.
The simplest things in life are normally the best things ever.
I ADORE MY LIFE AND MY WAYWIRED PERSONALITY~
When you believe and hold on to your own faith, most of the time, the storm would blast by and be rewarded with a rainbow. Just believe in yourself. I don't have a proper religion to depend on. I am a strong self-believer.
Faith in religion can bring out strength in helping one tide by low times in their lives. But what's the power of religion without correct decision and constant holding on to opportunities?
Just a thinking point. Just a thinking point..... =D Which is why gods never take credits... Because they know it's humans that puts in the effort. They are just there to listen to your prayers and helps one with faith. Sometimes, it's good to have something to worship to. To confide in. To tell problems to. Most people feels relieve when they can let problems out. But solutions don't come from gods. They come from your reflections. Having to say that, I think I offended a lot of people.... Err... Right... I got to give gods some credits too.. If only I can think of what. *Gulps*
But baby, where they knock you down and out
Is where you're oughta stay